Are you in a monogamous relationship? Even if you and your partner answer yes to that question, you may discover that the views you have on it are different. If you haven’t taken the time to find out your partner’s thoughts about monogamy, their feelings about it may surprise you.
The simple meaning of monogamy for most people is sexual fidelity, that you and your partner do not have sex with others. Despite this obvious clear definition, there is a “gray area” that some people have difficulty seeing as “cheating.”
Most will agree that there are lines that never should be crossed. Many will remember several years ago, when a former president insisted, “I did not have sex with that woman.” As the intimate details of their relationship emerged, it seemed technically in the minds of some people, he told the truth. Yet most people would agree that his behavior was not permissible in a monogamous relationship. It was considered by many people as “blatant cheating.’
Still the “gray area” becomes an issue when there is no physical sexual contact that gives clear evidence of infidelity. You may consider any flirtatious act as a form of “cheating.” It damages a relationship to be seen as a cheater, when you think you done nothing wrong. You and your partner must decide where the “lines will be drawn” in your relationship regarding monogamy to avoid hurt feelings, anger, and accusations.
Determining the boundaries in terms of monogamy will help the two of you discover what is acceptable for you in your relationship. Only then can you find a place of understanding and agreement. It may even save your marriage.