Posted Monday, July 2nd, 2012 | Tagged in : After An Affair, Relationship Advice, Save Your Marriage By Admin
It is a fact, that if you are married, you will have problems to overcome. If the problems are serious, and you have decided to work at keeping your relationship together, prepare yourself, it will not be easy in convincing your wife or husband to save the marriage when they want out.
To convince your wife or husband to save the marriage you must:
Accept responsibility: None of us are perfect! As the old adage says, “To err is to be human.” Acknowledging and accepting responsibility for the mistakes you made in your marriage can help resolve conflicts and hurt feelings. It shows your wife or husband that you realize that you contribute to the problems in your marriage.
Talk and Listen: Let your wife or husband know how you feel by talking things out. Use “I” statements. Don’t say, “You hurt me.” Instead say, I felt hurt.” Try to avoid saying “You” in an accusing tone or voice. Take the time to listen. Let your wife or husband tell you their concerns and how they feel. Be willing to listen to a different perspective about your marriage. Talking and listening to each other can create an atmosphere where it is easier for your efforts at convincing your wife or husband to save the marriage.
Seek Advice/Counseling: If you are a person of faith, you can seek the advice of your pastor. Ask that prayer be offered for the reconciliation between you and your wife or husband. If you prefer a secular approach to solving your marriage problems, you can seek out the advice of a professional marriage counselor. Approach the subject of marital counseling with sensitivity. Understand that your wife or husband may be unwilling to even consider counseling. They may feel pressured by you and think you are blaming the problems in your marriage on them. Don’t stoop to any form of manipulation by pleading with them. Don’t threaten to harm yourself, if they refuse to agree to attend marriage counseling with you.
Look After Yourself: Get the proper amount of rest to look and feel your best. Even though you are going through a difficult period in your life, don’t neglect to take good care of your health. Make sure you perform your everyday responsibilities. If it is necessary, get someone to help you with the issues you may be struggling to overcome.
Give it Time: Even though your wife or husband is not responding positively to your efforts, don’t lose hope. They just may need time to realize your commitment to the marriage and that it is worth saving. If the end result is that your wife or husband decides to continue the marriage, having had the patience to see things through, will make the waiting the best thing you ever done.