Marriage Tips That Work!

Posted Saturday, June 11th, 2016 | Tagged in : Relationship Advice, Relationship Challenges, Romance & Couple Time, Tips By Admin

To have a problem free marriage is an utopian dream. Many have tried to find it. But it still remains a dream! Even though, it is true you cannot have a friction free marriage. There are some ways you can minimize friction and problems in your marriage.

To prevent your marriage from ending up as another divorce case, read the following tips.

1. Marry for the right reasons

Marriages fail because people get married for the wrong reasons. A marriage is a union of mind, soul, and body. After the initial physical attraction wane, it may be hard for the two of you to stay together. Make sure you and your partner are in tuned with each other beyond the initial attraction to assure lasting satisfaction.

2. Don’t take each other for granted

When you start a relationship, there’s an effort to please the object of your affection and get them to fall in love with you. But after you become partners, you start to take each other for granted. If you want your marriage to stay rock solid, avoid taking your partner for granted. Make sure he or she knows their importance in your life. Do something spontaneous to add a spark that breaks the monotony of married life.

3. Sex is an important part of marriage

It’s important to realize that a good sexual life is the foundation that contribute to maintaining your marriage. The physical intimacy that a couple share, is vital to the success of the marriage. Stir up some excitement in your marriage to keep the passion burning. Studies have show that married couples have a more robust sexual life than single people do.

4. Make time for each other – Stay connected

You and your partner will drift apart when you don’t spend enough time together. Children and career are the two biggest factors that come between couples. It’s important to find the time to be alone together. Take the time to talk and reconnect on an intimate level away from family troubles and job problems.

5. Give each other space

Don’t cling too tightly. A husband and wife needs to give each other space to grow and develop interests on their own. It adds excitement to the relationship. A clingy partner may make the other one feel smothered and stifled. Give each other space to fulfill individual interests and needs. Clinging to tightly may make your partner feel that you don’t trust him or her and resentment could form toward you. It is important that the two of you pursue individual interests that gives you a sense of satisfaction with what is needed for your life.

What You Can Do To Stop The Arguments

Posted Sunday, May 26th, 2013 | Tagged in : Marriage Help, Relationship Advice, Relationship Challenges, Tips By Admin

“I am right” is what you believe when you’re arguing about something. You are passionate about your opinion. It is very difficult to accept that you may not be right in this instance.

It is difficult to admit you are wrong when your feelings are intense about an issue. Both of you want to be right. But if you want to maintain a healthy marriage, it is important to accept that you are not always going to be right. Keep in mind, there is a difference between thinking you are right and actually being right.

The person you are married to has ideas and opinions too. It may not always match what you think. Whether you known each other for a long or short time, accept the fact that the two of you will have different opinions about things, from something as trivial as what type of toothpaste to buy to a more serious issue of how you feel about money.

To stop the arguments:

1. Be flexible.

The rigidity of your position can be a constant source of conflict between you and your wife or husband. You must be willing to give ground to your partner once in a while to avoid a cycle of perpetual arguing. Ask yourself, is it really worth it to win this issue?

2. Accept differences.

You must understand that your wife or husband is an individual with their own personal likes and dislikes. Do not expect him or her to be a mirror reflection of you.

3. Learn not to sweat the small stuff.

This will protect your relationship from being bogged down in petty arguments. There is conflict in relationships. The goal should be to resolve it amicably without tension and hostility toward each other. Don’t let the things you and your partner cannot agree on become a source of constant arguing.

4. Don’t be selfish!

Stopping the arguments and working through conflicts requires having a selfless approach to your relationship. There has to be a willingness to do things that your partner enjoys. To have a more satisfying relationship you must share. Those qualities about your wife or husband are what attracted you. It is why you fell in love with them.

5. Stop trying to get your way and always trying to be right.

After a heated argument, take time to remind yourself what you love about your wife or husband, how he or she makes you feel. Isn’t your partner more important to you than being right all the time.

6. Agree to disagree.

The objective is to give voice to your feelings, to express what you want to say about an issue between the two of you. Each person position about an issue should be respected. No one in the relationship should feel imposed upon by the other. There must be a willingness to agree to disagree. If you try to change each other, it will result in conflict between you. Loving someone means accepting what you cannot change about them. Living with someone means learning to accept the differences between you and discovering how delightful and interesting your life together is because of the experience of it.

A Guide To Visiting Your In-Laws In Another Country

Posted Tuesday, March 31st, 2009 | Tagged in : Marriage Help, Relationship Advice, Relationship Challenges, Romance & Couple Time By Admin

Today the world is a global village. People from every corner of the country are meeting one another in different cosmopolitan cities around the world and falling in love. But as people fall in love and their relationship progresses, they must come to terms with each others cultural, religious and social background.  If you have married someone from another country, here are some tips on how to make sure that your visit to your in-laws is smooth and as problem free as possible.

1.  First of all, know your partner’s culture. What he or she thinks or does may not always reflect the country they belong to.  Gather information about the social and cultural background of your partner. If he or she comes from a conservative country, but acts liberal, that does not mean that your in-laws will be as open-minded as your mate.  When you go to your partner’s country, make sure you take the time to familiarize yourself with the various social customs.

2.  It a good idea to know how the people dress and socially interact in the country of your partner. For example, if you are going to the Middle East or to an African nation, the women there are expected to dress modestly.  Many western countries have a different definition of what represents modest attire. Make sure you know the dress code of your in-laws formal parties unless you present yourself as an exotic flamboyant character!

3.  Eating habits are different in most countries. You can eat with your hands in many Asian and African countries. No one will find it offensive or inappropriate. But in other countries, if you don’t know which spoon or fork you are supposed to  use with your meal, you will be considered an ill-mannered person.

4.  Greeting methods are also different among nations and cultures. If you visiting a Middle East country that has a Muslim background, it may be prohibited to greet a female with a kiss or hug.  And if your husband is from India or other south-Asian country, you may have to learn the proper way of greeting your elders.

5.  Food can be a barrier when it comes to cross cultural/religious marriages and partnerships. What is prohibited in one society can be the main dish in another. If you are offered any particular dish that you are not comfortable eating, it is better that you refuse it politely. To avoid an embarrassing situation, let your partner tell his/her family prior to the visit, what you eat and don’t eat. But if you are an adventurous type, you may welcome trying out new dishes from another culture.

6.  Holidays and festivals are often a concern between partners who come from a different religious background. The best option is to celebrate and participate in the religious and cultural beliefs of each other. However, if you are uncomfortable about it, be sure to share your feelings with your partner on this sensitive issue that affects you both.  Keep in mind that people from the same religion do not always have the same festivals or practice the same rituals. There are many holidays particular to one country, that although they share the same religious background they might not celebrate the same way. So take the time to learn about your partner’s religious holidays or festivals if it differ from yours. It will encourage you and your partner to participate in what you both hold dear to you.

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How Strong Relationships Survive

Posted Friday, November 7th, 2008 | Tagged in : Relationship Advice, Relationship Challenges By Admin
A strong relationship is necessary for a life of togetherness in marriage. Many marriages fail because the relationship, which is the basis of a marriage, was not strong enough. Building a strong relationship can lead to understanding your partner better, good communication, and create greater intimacy in the marriage between you. This article reveals things you can do to make your relationship strong .

For starter, partners are not always in sync or have the same temperament. It is true that opposites attract. This attraction can be enough to bind them for life! In a strong relationship, both partners bring something to their marriage or partnership. My parents had one of the most successful marriages that I could think of; and they were the most diverse people I knew! While my mother was the level-headed one, my father was more of the “seize the day” kind of person, the dreamer. My mother brought my father to earth, when he flew from reality. While he brought her the imagination to dream, to look beyond the here and now, to make the impossible into possible!  This is one striking feature of a strong relationship.

Another feature is the respect they have for each other. A couple I knew was predicted to be a failure by many because he was an average government employee while she was a neurosurgeon. Everybody thought that the wife ruled over the husband, because she earned more and was successful. The fact was, the wife respected the husband deeply because he had given up his higher studies, knowing she had a bright future. There was never an ego clash between them. Many men tend to devalue their partner, seeing them only as a homemaker. These men think having a successful career is more important than being a housewife. There must be mutual respect between the partners, an appreciation for what they both brings to the relationship. This is essential for a strong relationship. If a partner feels devalued and disrespected, the seed of failure will take root in their marriage.

When partners are in a strong relationship they know that it is important that they talk to each other. Taking the time to communicate is a way of preventing problems from becoming more serious. It keeps you connected to each other.This is how many relationships survive even when one partner is thousands of miles apart from the other. Modern technology gives us the ability to stay in touch even through the internet. If you want to have a strong relationship, you must find the time to talk to each other. It is quite tough in today’s world, where men and women are competing to get ahead, running in that rat race to succeed. Married couples are also bombarded with the tasks of rearing children, paying the bills, buying groceries, and dealing with an assortment of issues that confront them on a daily basis.

Still despite all the challenges you and your partner will be confronted with, you must make time together your #1 priority,

when you both can be alone and connect with each other to make sure your relationship remains the strongest it can be.

Couples everywhere have discovered that in a strong relationship they have to keep the lines of communication open with time set aside to talk and share. No matter how busy you may be, your partner needs to know that you will have time for them.

Living Apart to Stay Together

Posted Wednesday, October 15th, 2008 | Tagged in : Relationship Advice, Relationship Challenges, Romance & Couple Time By Admin
For some couples, choosing to continue living apart after entering into a committed and monogamous relationship is a case of “once bitten, twice shy.” We may gaily rush into a relationship and all its associated paraphernalia when we’re in our twenties, but by the time we’ve reached mid-life we’re a little skeptical. We’ve come to learn that the dream we harboured many years ago of domestic bliss in a cozy cottage with a rose garden and postcard picture views, isn’t quite what it’s cracked up to be. Once we’ve reached our forties, some of us have had more than our fair share of cozy cottages and have discovered that those rose gardens can bear very sharp thorns! But it’s not only our life experience and mild cynicism that puts us off wanting to play house when we fall for someone, couples who get together later in life bring with them a lot more literal and metaphorical baggage than their younger counterparts. Children are added to the relationship mix, and anyone who’s been through an acrimonious divorce or separation, and seen the traumatizing effect it can have on their children won’t want to see it happening again. A divorce or separation can cause enough emotional wreckage to put people off embarking on a relationship for a very long time. It can take years for a newly divorced or separated woman or man to rebuild their life, and the lives of their children, so much so that when they do meet someone they like and trust enough to want to date, they are wary about introducing him or her into the world they’ve re-built. For some people, continuing to live separately while in a relationship means that the safe haven they’ve constructed for themselves and their children isn’t disturbed and a sense of continuity is maintained. In addition, some people discover that the independence they find after years of living in the shadow of their former partner is something that they not only relish, but don’t want to relinquish. And whereas a younger person might see this attitude as a reflection of his or her partner’s lack of commitment, a more mature man or woman will be better able to understand the importance this has for their significant other and respect their wishes.

For others, living apart isn’t so much a choice but rather a necessity. Some people feel that they are so set in their ways that it would be almost impossible to share their living space with another. While they may think their partner is the most wonderful person in the world, some individuals know themselves well enough to accept that they would be driven mad by their partner’s habits. An excessively tidy woman may not be able to live with a man who leaves his newspapers and magazines strewn over the floor. (Individuals with relationship experience know that love is no guarantee they will be able to view all those little quirks their partner possesses as endearing!)

Mature couples may be more likely to accept the idea and see the advantages of living separately, while in a relationship. Some like being able to choose when to be together. And the time you do spend together isn’t taken up with griping at each other about untidy rooms or whose turn it is to take the garbage out.

Some relationship experts might argue that to live in such a way is lazy, and that couples aren’t prepared to put in the hard work that an intimate relationship requires; while friends and family members might comment that a relationship is lacking in some way, that if a couple were truly committed they would live together period. But the way in which intimate relationships are conducted has changed over the years. Couples no longer marry for life at the age of 20. And relationships, as well as people, are complex; there are no hard and fast rules as to what makes them work.