Need A Jolt? Spark? Liven Your Relationship

Posted Sunday, June 12th, 2016 | Tagged in : Relationship Advice, Romance & Couple Time By Admin

Things to try:

Spontaneity:  A major complain that couples have about their relationship, is, their partner takes them for granted. Change this perception by doing something out of the ordinary to keep the excitement alive in your relationship. Create something the two of you can do that’s fun and exciting. Arrange an evening together without any distractions that you both can enjoy.

Shower attention on your partner: Surprise your partner by giving him or her special attention. Spend the whole day doting on your partner and indulging him or her with things that delight them.

Have some away time together: If possible take a short vacation together. If you’re not able to get some time off, then as a substitute, schedule a massage for the two of you at a local spa near where you live. A few hours at a spa can transform the two of you with pampering and special attention. It will provide a pleasurable relaxing experience. Getting away will refresh the two of you.

Remember important things:  Celebrate those events that mean something to both of you. Such as, when you first said I love you. The time you propose. Your anniversary, etc,. Send flowers to mark the occasion. Dedicate a special song. Send an e-card or text message with an expression of love to let the special person in your life know that you are thinking about him or her.

Explore something new:  Fulfill your partner fantasy with imaginative ways of satisfying him or her. Couples who have been together long, may need to overcome boredom. Change the routine that the two of you have grown accustomed to by exploring something new. Since this is a sensitive area, make sure you consider your partner’s beliefs and feelings, before you explore and introduce something new.

Keep it simple: If you don’t like going out of your way and it’s not your style to make a fuss about doing things, keep it simple. There are things you can do together that doesn’t require you spending any money or going out somewhere. Perhaps, playing games is more to your liking. You can listen to your favorite music, watch movies or T.V. together. You can snuggle together and read a mystery or share a romance novel. The two of you could go strolling along the beach or take a walk in the park.

Communicate and Listen: You must have uninhibited communication to assure a strong relationship. Keeping your thoughts and feelings to yourself makes it impossible to have true intimacy. Open up about what you thinking and feeling. Take time to listen, not just talk. There has to be honest communication for the two of you to have an understanding and stay connected to each other.

Marriage Tips That Work!

Posted Saturday, June 11th, 2016 | Tagged in : Relationship Advice, Relationship Challenges, Romance & Couple Time, Tips By Admin

To have a problem free marriage is an utopian dream. Many have tried to find it. But it still remains a dream! Even though, it is true you cannot have a friction free marriage. There are some ways you can minimize friction and problems in your marriage.

To prevent your marriage from ending up as another divorce case, read the following tips.

1. Marry for the right reasons

Marriages fail because people get married for the wrong reasons. A marriage is a union of mind, soul, and body. After the initial physical attraction wane, it may be hard for the two of you to stay together. Make sure you and your partner are in tuned with each other beyond the initial attraction to assure lasting satisfaction.

2. Don’t take each other for granted

When you start a relationship, there’s an effort to please the object of your affection and get them to fall in love with you. But after you become partners, you start to take each other for granted. If you want your marriage to stay rock solid, avoid taking your partner for granted. Make sure he or she knows their importance in your life. Do something spontaneous to add a spark that breaks the monotony of married life.

3. Sex is an important part of marriage

It’s important to realize that a good sexual life is the foundation that contribute to maintaining your marriage. The physical intimacy that a couple share, is vital to the success of the marriage. Stir up some excitement in your marriage to keep the passion burning. Studies have show that married couples have a more robust sexual life than single people do.

4. Make time for each other – Stay connected

You and your partner will drift apart when you don’t spend enough time together. Children and career are the two biggest factors that come between couples. It’s important to find the time to be alone together. Take the time to talk and reconnect on an intimate level away from family troubles and job problems.

5. Give each other space

Don’t cling too tightly. A husband and wife needs to give each other space to grow and develop interests on their own. It adds excitement to the relationship. A clingy partner may make the other one feel smothered and stifled. Give each other space to fulfill individual interests and needs. Clinging to tightly may make your partner feel that you don’t trust him or her and resentment could form toward you. It is important that the two of you pursue individual interests that gives you a sense of satisfaction with what is needed for your life.

How To Know He Loves You

Posted Thursday, February 11th, 2016 | Tagged in : Relationship Advice, Romance & Couple Time By Admin
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It’s obvious that men may take a very long time to say “I love you.” But, just because he hasn’t said, “I love you” yet, doesn’t mean he isn’t crazy about you. There’s no one better to tell you when a guy loves you, then himself. The key is how he acts toward you. Check out the signs below to discover how to know if he loves you.

1.You Capture Him Looking at You
Males constantly ogle things they like – it’s a factor that get us caught peeping at the cleavage of women. Take into consideration: With all that eye candy out there, if it’s you he’s staring at, his affection runs deep for you.  “Seeing my special lady at a celebration gives me a private moment to reflect and wonder just how do I deserve such a fantastic person in my life.  Watching her attentively with my eyes,  when she doesn’t know I’m looking at her, is something I hold secretly to myself,” says Drew.

3. He Purchases Food You Like
Finding that his kitchen area is filled with your preferred foods,  diet sodas, and other  edibles (that would only  pass his lips if he was forced-fed ) shows that you are lingering in his thoughts in the most unforeseen and unromantic places – like the produce aisle, when he’s shopping alone.  After getting home, he discover bags of fresh vegetables and fruits that he would never buy. “When this happened to me, it became clear that I had reached a place that seemed natural, where I wanted to please her – I  knew then I was in love,” said Richard.

4. He Doesn’t Mine Your Things At His Place
Men likes to maintain the air of independence, being unattached. The fact that he is acknowledging there’s a woman in his life, when we tend to be fiercely protected of maintaining being free, shows the extent you’re special to him. That he’s in love with you. This is more proof, you’re the one he has decided that he wants in his life long-term.

5. He Shares His Plans
to move to the southeast one day, that may be like a neon alert to signal you it’s time to leave the relationship.  But it also could indicate he’s trying to let you know he wants you in his future.  When a guy has a serious conversation about his future plans, he may be gauging to see if you want to be with him. I’m not saying it is easy for you to determine his true motives. It may take some prodding to find out whether his plans for the future include you.  So, how do you know when a guy’s merely extolling his tactical plan or affectionately declaring his love for you by talking about the future? It comes down to his words and how he says things. If his plans involve moving to an exotic island and sun bathing all day, then you know he isn’t serious about you. On the other hand,  if he shares with you that he plans to move to Florida, at some point, and then asks if you can picture yourself living there, he’s revealing his feelings for a long-term relationship with you.

6. You Are Able To Get Him To Wear That Shirt You Gave Him
Even though as  guy’s most of us are not that particular about what we wear, trusting a woman to select an article of clothing is like a right of passage. We pride ourselves on being who we are, whatever the look. Blame it on the male ego, but we don’t like anyone trying to change our dress, even if it helps us look better. “It’s seen as a sign of weakness for a man to allow any change in his appearance to be dictated by someone else,” explain Brian. So, when a man puts on something picked out by you, that’s an indication he may be in love you.

7. It Is Not An Issue If You Answer His Phone
As men we never know what might be lurking, which could be potentially damaging, that’s hidden on our cell phone – from overzealous probing mothers to ex-girlfriends looking for a last get together with us. If we allow you to answer that personal device, that holds secrets and intimate things about us, it shows you have a clear path and there’s nothing being kept from you. “Men in general, aren’t open to sharing details about their life. When a guy gives you access to his phone – he making you privy to information you could use against him. For him, to willingly let you answer his phone, indicates he’s planning on remaining with you for the rest of his life,” according to Richard.

Things That Are A Marriage Saver To Your Relationship

Posted Saturday, December 26th, 2015 | Tagged in : Marriage & Relationship, Marriage Help, Save Your Relationship | Get Your Ex Back By Admin

Marriages fail for various reasons. But, there are things you can do that are a marriage saver to heal your damage relationship. One of the main reasons for failure in a marriage is that the two of you do not see each other the way you use to.  At the beginning of your relationship the two of you felt a strong feeling of intense love. It made both of you feel you wanted to be together forever. So you got married, setup your living arrangement and begin sharing life together.

Now that you are married, you may no longer see eye to eye on what’s important to you. There are arguments over major and trivial things. At least one of you realize that the disagreements and conflicts between you must be worked out to save your marriage. If you could rediscover those feelings you had at the beginning of your relationship when your love was new and all you wanted was to be together.

To rediscover those feelings of intense love you felt at the beginning for each other, here are three things you can do that could be a marriage saver to your relationship.

First: Listen closely to what your partner is saying to you when issues get fierce between you.  But, the best time to talk, is when things are good between you. When you are calm and in a good mood it’s more likely you will be open listening to each other. Be observant to what is said and done. Don’t neglect to stay  in tune to your partner by really listening to him or her. Being observant will keep you in the know about what’s going on with one another.

Second: If you have grown apart, become connected again. Hold on to the love you have for each other. Closeness is vitally important in a marriage. It maintains a lasting love. And being sensitive to your partner feelings and thoughts promotes communication and physical intimacy. If you can stay at a place of closeness, it keeps the connection between you strong.  You’ll see what a different it will make in your marriage.  Show genuine interest and be inquisitive about your wife or husband to keep that spark between you, don’t let it die out. Discover new things together to enrich your relationship. Talk and share each interest. It will keep you connected.

Third: Talk about your memories. Let your partner speak to you about his or her memories, both good and bad from their childhood. There were things from the past that contribute to who you see and love. You may discover that the person you are married to, earlier in their life had fears, which still may be a nagging factor that affects him or her. These things may help you understand your husband or wife better and result in you having a stronger relationship. You may discover things that gives you an insight that changes your perspective about your partner, because of what was experience as a child. It will cause you to show a sensitive side to your partner, who as you have discovered, experience painful things, just like you.

The three things that are highlighted here can be a marriage saver that gives the two of you what you need to stay together through the good and bad times.

Rekindle The Passion You Once Felt

Posted Saturday, December 5th, 2015 | Tagged in : Marriage Help, Marriage Made Easy, Romance & Couple Time By Admin

Have you notice a change in your marriage? What was once a hot and heavy relationship between you, now barely flickers. Over time the relationship you share may become lackluster   The flames of ardor are no longer stirred. After years of being married, things between you may seems mundane and routine. To prevent your marriage from settling into such an existence , you must make it your priority.

These 5 suggestions can help you discover ways to put the fire of passion back in your marriage.

1. Set Aside Time For Romance

Rekindling the passion you once felt for each other, doesn’t have to consume a lot of your time. It can be something as simple as a walk along the beach holding hands, a candlelight dinner, or listening to your favorite songs. The two of you could cuddle up on the couch together and watch a movie or your favorite videos.  Just need to find what works for the two of you. Use your imagination to create some magical moments of romance.

2. Add Spontaneity.

When you are unexpectedly invited to a trendy new restaurant with jamming music and delectable food, that type of spontaneous gesture adds joy and excitement to your day. You can send a text message that expresses feelings of love.  Sending a text message with feelings of love or some flowers, is what adds a spark to an otherwise monotonous day.  A spontaneous gesture creates those moments in life that leads to pleasant memories. And it results in keeping a fire inside of you burning. Think how you would feel to suddenly have something special happen to brighten your day.

3. Listen Attentively!

Listening is such a simple thing to do. Yet, many couples fail to spend time just listening to each other. Taking the time to listen to each other will keep you connected in your relationship. Talk about what’s on your mind to discover what you need and want from each other.

4. Be Enthusiastic

Remember when you first met, how you waited with anticipation for that moment to see each other. The two of you showed interest in what you both did and said. Even with no special plans, there was an excitement of just being together, . This special way you felt was the reason why you got married. Recapturing those feelings again will spark a fire that can restore you once had for one another.

5. Do Something Different, Adventurous

Take that cooking class together. Try an outdoor activity. It doesn’t matter what you do. Try something that takes you out of the comfort zone you have grown accustomed to. Do something where you both can experience something new. Recaptures those special feelings of closeness, like when you first fell in love. If you enjoy reading, you can join other enthusiastic readers to discuss characters and events from books. The two of you can prepare some portions of food that you both enjoy and spend an evening in each other company.

All it takes to rekindle the fire and restore your marriage is wanting to do it. Explore ways to make it happen.

 

How To Stay Connected In Your Marriage

Posted Friday, December 4th, 2015 | Tagged in : Marriage & Relationship, Marriage Help, Relationship Advice By Admin

To weather through the ups and downs, the good times and the bad times, you need  to discover how to stay connected by:

Opening up about what’s bothering you.

Take the time to gain some insight to identify the source of your unhappiness. Maybe you feel emotionally disconnected from your wife or husband. Maybe you feel he or she no longer finds you desirable. After examining things closely, you learn that their behavior has nothing to do with you. And there’s also a possibility that your spouse could be experiencing emotional or physical difficulties too. The bottom line is, unless you open up and discuss what’s bothering you, the two of you could find yourselves drifting farther apart from each other.

Taking The Initiative.

As stated earlier, marriages go through ups and downs. If you are experiencing a down period in your marriage, take the initiative toward staying connected to your wife or husband. Understand that you need to approach the situation with a positive attitude to get back to that place where things are looking up again for the two of you.

Talking things over.

If communication has been difficult between you lately, wait for things to calm down. When the anger has subsided, you will more likely be receptive and open to talking things over. Even if you had a right to be angry, a solution to your problems is easier to reach when enough time has passed where you both want a reconciliation. The two of you may discover that your reactions are based on what you perceived you did to each other. Once your emotions are not heated anymore, you will be able to engage in meaningful conversations with each other toward working out your problems.

Call. Text. Write a note.

When life is hectic and there’s not much time to see each other, taking the time to phone, text, or write a note can help. It is a great way to stay connected to each other. A day can take on a different look and feeling, when  the person you love know you were thinking of her or him.

How To Talk To Your Partner About Money

Posted Friday, December 4th, 2015 | Tagged in : Divorce & Breakups, Marriage Help By Admin

Before you marry that special someone it’s a good idea to talk about your finances. One of the major hurdles that couples struggle with in their marriage is money issues. It is a key factor that leads to heated arguments. So, it is necessary that both of you face this issue to avoid the consequences of having problems between you about money.
It may seem surprising, but many couples don’t even bother to discuss the important issue of money. According to a survey from “Fidelity,” 43 percent of couples didn’t know how much money their partner earned. This statistic is alarming and explain why money is such a hot bottom issue among married couples.

Make having a discussion about money with your wife or husband a priority. Use these talks to have an open conversation regarding your finances where the two of you can work out differences and reach an understanding.

A good approach to take about money is to:

First: Talk about those things that you want to purchase.

If there’s a big money item, before buying it, see how your partner feels about it first. This let him or her know about it, which will avoid an angry reaction later. Don’t sneak out and buy something, be open about it.

Second: It is a good thing to know the credit score of each other, before marriage.

And you especially need to know after the both of you are married. After you’re married, your partner score will affect you. Their score will impact your ability to get a car or house if it is bad. Many millennials admit to bringing credit card debt into their relationship. So, it is important to join together to manage your finances where the partner with the lower credit rating doesn’t burden the other partner. Work out a solution that has a plan to pay the household expenses and the other necessities the two of you share. Take the extra money and place it into an account that can go toward paying off debts.

Third: After getting married, there’s an adjustment period for the two of you.

Instead of thinking “my money,” you must think “our money.”  Plan a budget together, where you make a list of your monthly expenses. After setting aside money for those essentials you must take care of, you can then figure out where the extra money should go, such as, saving, gym membership, date night, or personal grooming.

Fourth: The two of you will have to decide what works best for you in managing your money.

Determine whether you want a join or separate account, or a combination of both. Be aware that you may have different spending habits. If you like to spend big, but your partner is more of a penny pincer, then you would be wise to have two separate accounts. One account can be for shared expenses for the mortgage, insurance, car payment, etc, and you can have a separate account for your personal expenses. The two of you will have to decide what works best for you.

In conclusion: Now that the two of you have shared your financial history, it’s time to plan for the future by making long term goals. If you want a home, it’s not too soon to start saving for it. And don’t forget about your retirement. Even though it may seem like light years away.

5 Steps To Fix Your Relationship

Posted Thursday, December 3rd, 2015 | Tagged in : Relationship Advice, Save Your Relationship | Get Your Ex Back By Admin

Sometimes relationships, like broken ceramic vases, need fixing. Couples go through rough roads once in a while. These rough roads shake up a relationship no matter how stable it appears. Having these rough patches doesn’t mean that the relationship is ending. You and your partner can get through these problems together.

Here are 5 steps to fix your relationship.

1. Determine what is causing the friction and problems between you.

If you want to fix your relationship, do not pretend that there is nothing wrong. Once you determine the root cause of your problems the two of you must face them head on.

2. Avoid blaming your partner for mistakes.

If you play the blame game, it will only create more drama. And it won’t solve anything. Keep in mind you both have made mistakes during the course of the relationship.

3. Talk to each other on how to fix your problems.

If talking doesn’t clarify things, seek out someone to assist you in seeing clearly what the problems are, someone who can help in determining how to fix your relationship. Keep the lines of communication open with each other. The best way to fix a relationship is to  tell your partner about what’s bothering you. It’s the best way to fix a relationship. Don’t keep things bogged inside of you. This can cause the problems between you to fester and become worse.

4. Reaching a solution, give you the best chance of successfully fixing your relationship.

Both of you must come to a comfortable place where you can agree. Make sure you are exerting effort and making the necessary sacrifice to make things between the two of you work.

5. Give it time.

Don’t grow impatient, if the problems between you aren’t resolved right away. Problems usually don’t disappear overnight, especially when they have lingered between you a long time. If you are determine to stay together, you may need to give a generous among of time to fix your relationship.

Mr Right vs Mr Right Now

Posted Saturday, March 15th, 2014 | Tagged in : Relationship Advice, Romance & Couple Time By Admin
Mr Right vs Mr Right Now

Mr Right vs Mr Right Now    By Rebecca Keller

There comes a point in every relationship when we ask ourselves “Is this thing going anywhere?” Sometimes the answer may be excruciatingly obvious—like if the man you’ve been seeing for two months has you on a rotating date schedule with at least two other women (that you know of), or he still introduces you as “my friend, so-and-so” after six months of more-than-friendly activities. If you have any doubts about your relationship, chances are you already know that your man is probably not the prince for whom you’ve been waiting all these years. But what if the signs aren’t so clear, and the question that could ultimately make or break your relationship looms over you like a dark cloud? Men, at least the commitment probes, tend to scare easily, and a statement such as “We need to talk” may send an insecure man running for the hills, at which time he will curl up in the fetal position and suck his thumb until the big, bad serious-conversation monster (you) leaves him alone. There may be some small ways for you to determine for yourself if your man’s in it for the long haul, without having to play Russian Roulette with your love life.

He keeps a toothbrush at your place.

If his toothbrush stands proudly next to yours in the toothbrush holder, at least he plans on coming back to your house some time soon. The very presence of his toothbrush is proof that he’s given some thought about a future with you in it—a future that he intends to have past tonight. Of course, if he doesn’t keep a toothbrush at your place, all hope is not lost. He may be using your brush, which could be considered charming—in a disgusting kind of way. If he thinks you’re close enough to be sharing a toothbrush, you’ve reached a level of intimacy that some couples never attain.

Your favorite overnight attire waits you.

He has a certain t-shirt and boxer shorts ensemble that you like to wear when you sleep over at his place. If you’re ready to go to sleep and said outfit is folded—or maybe just piled—and waiting for you on your side of the bed, he’s had premeditated notions of seeing you again—at his place, in his clothes. If he expends any kind of energy on you when you’re not around, he’s probably thinking about you more than he’d like to admit. And that’s a good sign.

He switches radio stations when you get into the car.

He likes hard rock, and you like R&B. You know this, yet his radio is blaring Usher’s “Burn” when he picks you up for your date. This could mean three things. 1.) He got confused. 2.) He was too lazy to change the station after the last time you were in the car. 3.) He knows what you like, and he’s willing to take one for the team to ensure your happiness. If he’s hard core hard rock, he probably wouldn’t listen to R&B if he didn’t have to, and he most likely did not get confused. If he let’s you pick the station, he’s willing to give up something that less-into-you men would never consider. Which also pertains to television watching. If he lets you choose a show, even if it isn’t all the time, this is still a major event worth noting. He’s compromising something that most men consider very sacred, and the fact that he’s sharing the power with you is a big deal.

While we’re on the subject of music . . .

He sings along with you singing along with the radio. Instead of wasting his energy telling you how tone-deaf you are, or turning up the volume to drown out your voice, he warms up his vocal chords and joins you in the accompaniment, knowing quite well that he can not carry a tune. He’s willing to make a fool of himself in front of you, and men don’t easily joke around with pride. And if he doesn’t know the words and still sings along—well, that’s something special.

He plays with your pet even though he’s allergic to animal fur.

He’s willing to risk watery eyes, blotchy skin, and a swollen face to hang out with you. Even if he doesn’t exactly play with your cat, he’s become accustomed to being in the same room as Princess, and he may even sit next to her on the sofa occasionally. He’s immersing himself into a part of your life that’s important to you, and he’s putting his life—or at least his appearance—on the line to do it.

He keeps an endless supply of your favorite foods/drinks in his house.

You like cream cheese on your bagel in the morning, and cream cheese makes him gag, yet he designates an entire drawer in the refrigerator for the stuff (basically because he doesn’t want any of his food near it, but still). He keeps both mild and hot salsa in his fridge because he knows you don’t like anything too spicy. He’s opening his kitchen to you and your favorite things, instead of just forcing you to eat what he has lying around, which, let’s be honest, may sometimes be taste-bud suicide. And if he starts to clear off a shelf in his cupboard for your cereal and crackers, he may start making room in his house for more than just your food.

He cooks meals to fit your tastes.

He has an amazing recipe for Chile, but you don’t eat chilli because you have an inexplicable aversion to kidney beans. He makes dinner one night—chilli—and you find yourself reaching for the Easy Mac, until you realize he’s made this batch sans kidney beans. He’s altering recipes for you now, which is another sign that he knows what you like—better yet, remembers what you don’t like—and plans accordingly. And you can’t really go too wrong with that.

He remembers something important you said four months ago.

It’s your first holiday season with your man, and you’re slightly nervous because he hasn’t asked you what you wanted for Christmas. As it turns out, he bought you a bunch of things you’d said you wanted at one point or another. But here’s the kicker. You brought up most of these things in a fleeting conversation which you barely remember yourself. If he remembers what you told him yesterday, it’s a good sign, let alone something you said months ago. This means he’s filling space in his memory with things that he feels may be important to know in the future, and these things have something to do with you. Statistically, you should be in good shape if he remembers firsts and important dates, and he hasn’t mixed up any of your important dates with important dates of other relationships (i.e accidentally wishing you a happy anniversary on his ex-girlfriend’s birthday).

He still likes you even after he sees you without makeup and post workout

No one looks like a supermodel after working out, and if he pops by unannounced, or invites himself along on your daily jog, he will inevitably see the side of you that you’ve been meticulously covering with make-up and primping. If he still asks you out after he’s seen your ever-attractive matted hair and the fountain of sweat pouring off your body, then he’s a keeper.

Of course, there are other signs—some obvious, some ambiguous—that your relationship is moving forward:

He offers you a key to his apartment. He introduces you to his parents (and is lovey dovey with you in front of them) He calls you during guys’ night out. These and other small gestures speak volumes about a relationship’s potential for advancement.

No sign is fool-proof.

Some men have learned to manipulate the system for their own personal gain. And these Mr Right now,  blend in with the Mr Right,  but they aren’t undetectable.  So don’t feel hopeless.

In a world where no one—man or woman—wants to jeopardize a good thing because the alternative seems a bit too daunting, being able to identify the positive signs in your relationship without uttering the phrase, “Do you see a future for us?” may be an integral part of keeping your relationship alive.

Even Mr. Right can get scared by a verbal declaration of commitment.  Even, if he’s been planning your future in his head for months.

A healthy Marriage Has These 5 Ingredients

Posted Wednesday, March 12th, 2014 | Tagged in : Marriage & Relationship, Marriage Made Easy, Relationship Advice By Admin

A healthy Marriage Has These 5 Ingredients

 

Couples get married every day. Sadly they get divorced every day too. Of all the things a man and woman can decide to do, marriage is perhaps one of the most difficult. The getting married part is easy. It’s having a successful and happy marriage that’s difficult to achieve.

More than half the people who decide to get married will find themselves facing a divorce within five years or less. Although these statistics are alarming, the divorce rate has declined in recent years. The primary reason for this decline is couples have spurned the traditional marriage and have chosen to live together instead.

Living together, whether married or not has its challenges. What makes a marriage healthy? The reasons are varied. Some of the factors are social, cultural, and religious.

There are some key ingredients that a marriage has to have to succeed.

Commitment

There must be a commitment from both of you to make the relationship work.  For some commitment is a scary word. They back away when anything serious is require of them. Their mind conjures up thoughts of a ball and chain, a nagging spouse and mounting bills. A commitment requires maturity and soberness of mind, that even when things are difficult, you will remain together.

Communication

You must talk about things! It seems so simple. Most know how important it is to communicate about things with each other. Yet couples fail to include this essential ingredient. Not discussing your thoughts about issues, nor expressing how you feel, will lead to a misunderstanding about things. Make it a priority to talk about what’s going on in the home and at work.  And don’t forget to share your private thoughts and feelings. The things you have been holding in, let them out! Only when there is complete openness and honesty, by communicating with each other, can a deep level of intimacy be realized, which is what you should strive for in your relationship.

Satisfy each other needs

Strive to meet each other needs emotionally, mentally, and physically. You must desire to take care of one another in every way. It should be a pleasure and not a chore. Treat your partner as a friend and a lover. Love, appreciate, admire, and respect each other. You will find that this ingredient in your relationship can do wonders to make those petty annoyances that all couples experience a fleeing moment in time.

Maintain a good balance of work, relaxation, and pleasure

Work, laugh, and play together. When a decision has to be made, do it together. Set common goals and work toward achieving them.

Keep a sense of humor

A sense of humor is a must if your marriage is to survive. Take the time to have some light moments. A sense of humor is a great quality to cultivate. Whenever you can interject something to bring laughter or cheer to your partner, that will help to lighten things between the two of you. There are enough serious things in life we all have to face. Having something to make us laugh is uplifting. It gives us the resiliency to overcome whatever life send our way.

Ingredients of a good marriage are like the ingredients of a good recipe. It is lasting. And it is satisfying.