Posted Tuesday, March 31st, 2009 | Tagged in : Marriage Help, Relationship Advice, Relationship Challenges, Romance & Couple Time By Admin
Today the world is a global village. People from every corner of the country are meeting one another in different cosmopolitan cities around the world and falling in love. But as people fall in love and their relationship progresses, they must come to terms with each others cultural, religious and social background. If you have married someone from another country, here are some tips on how to make sure that your visit to your in-laws is smooth and as problem free as possible.
1. First of all, know your partner’s culture. What he or she thinks or does may not always reflect the country they belong to. Gather information about the social and cultural background of your partner. If he or she comes from a conservative country, but acts liberal, that does not mean that your in-laws will be as open-minded as your mate. When you go to your partner’s country, make sure you take the time to familiarize yourself with the various social customs.
2. It a good idea to know how the people dress and socially interact in the country of your partner. For example, if you are going to the Middle East or to an African nation, the women there are expected to dress modestly. Many western countries have a different definition of what represents modest attire. Make sure you know the dress code of your in-laws formal parties unless you present yourself as an exotic flamboyant character!
3. Eating habits are different in most countries. You can eat with your hands in many Asian and African countries. No one will find it offensive or inappropriate. But in other countries, if you don’t know which spoon or fork you are supposed to use with your meal, you will be considered an ill-mannered person.
4. Greeting methods are also different among nations and cultures. If you visiting a Middle East country that has a Muslim background, it may be prohibited to greet a female with a kiss or hug. And if your husband is from India or other south-Asian country, you may have to learn the proper way of greeting your elders.
5. Food can be a barrier when it comes to cross cultural/religious marriages and partnerships. What is prohibited in one society can be the main dish in another. If you are offered any particular dish that you are not comfortable eating, it is better that you refuse it politely. To avoid an embarrassing situation, let your partner tell his/her family prior to the visit, what you eat and don’t eat. But if you are an adventurous type, you may welcome trying out new dishes from another culture.
6. Holidays and festivals are often a concern between partners who come from a different religious background. The best option is to celebrate and participate in the religious and cultural beliefs of each other. However, if you are uncomfortable about it, be sure to share your feelings with your partner on this sensitive issue that affects you both. Keep in mind that people from the same religion do not always have the same festivals or practice the same rituals. There are many holidays particular to one country, that although they share the same religious background they might not celebrate the same way. So take the time to learn about your partner’s religious holidays or festivals if it differ from yours. It will encourage you and your partner to participate in what you both hold dear to you.
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