“The one who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” (1 John 4:8)
I’ve usually seen love as a two-way avenue. We share love by way of phrases of affirmation, supportive actions, and easily being current. And we are able to obtain love in the identical methods.
What I additionally understand is that love doesn’t need to be a two-way avenue. Sometimes love flows a method with the sender giving love and the recipient receiving. In these cases there isn’t a reciprocity.
While most of us would probably want, and even say we abide by the two-way avenue form of love, what’s extra probably is that we alternate between the 2. There are moments in life once we discover ease in giving like to others, and even receiving. We settle for God’s love, and reciprocate by giving thanks, giving reward, perhaps discovering methods to serve Him. And we do the identical with our family members. They discover methods to point out like to us and we are able to’t assist however wish to give some in return.
But then there are these moments once we discover ourselves on the one-way avenue, and never because the sender of affection, however because the recipient. God, or another person exhibits love and we don’t wish to give any again. Sometimes we don’t even categorical gratitude. Maybe we don’t acknowledge we’re being beloved, or perhaps we don’t care.
What makes these one-way streets even worse is once we determine to place up some type of blockade. We separate ourselves from these making an attempt to like us saying in impact, I don’t need any. How many instances have we carried out this after a verbal spat with a beloved one? How many instances have we carried out this with God, selecting sin over His commandments?
Why We Sometimes Avoid What Matters Most
From time to time we’d like to have the ability to ask the query — am I blocking myself from love?
Love from God, love from others. If so, what can we do to alter that?
During a time in America the place folks search division earlier than they search connection, it is a good query to ask your self. God didn’t intend for all of humanity to dislike each other. He didn’t request that we divide ourselves primarily based on pores and skin shade, faith, or political events. In truth, Jesus laid down two essential truths for us. He recognized the 2 best commandments they usually each cope with love.
“He said to him, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and most important command. The second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.’” (Matthew 22:37-39)
If we all know then that love issues most, why will we at instances discover ourselves blocking love from getting into our lives?
There are a lot of totally different explanation why from time to time we discover ourselves blocking the love of God and different folks. There could also be one motive or a number of. Surely the extra conscious of those points we will be as Christians, the stronger our religion will grow to be. Not solely will we then strengthen our connection to God, but additionally others. With religious development we are going to function stronger role-models for our fellow Christians and present unbelievers what our religion is all about.
Finding the basis to our block will be troublesome although. Here are just a few concepts to contemplate.
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“Pride comes before destruction, and an arrogant spirit before a fall.” (Proverbs 16:18)
When we select delight over humility, we take a stance of pretending to be extra self-sufficient than we’re able to as people. Instead of recognizing good moments in life as God’s blessings, we deal with them as our personal particular person triumphs. Yet, who’re we with out the loving, forgiving, and all-knowing Father?
Pride blocks us from love by making us assume we are able to undergo life on our personal, however that’s far from the reality. We want one another, and we’d like God.
“A greedy person stirs up conflict, but whoever trusts in the Lord will prosper.” (Proverbs 28:25)
Similar to delight, once we discover ourselves giving in to greed, we take as a substitute of give. In truth, all we wish to do is take, take from God, take from others. We keep clenched fists as a substitute of open palms. Taking this method in life prevents God from utilizing us to unfold His love.
If love is to be a two-way avenue, we are able to’t simply take. We also needs to attempt to provide.
“One who isolates himself pursues selfish desires; he rebels against all sound wisdom.” (Proverbs 18:1)
Just as Adam was made from the earth in Genesis, God additionally introduced him a companion. We want companions in our lives too, whether or not within the type of household, associates, a accomplice. When we stay remoted lives, conserving to our islands, we cease others from loving us. We defend ourselves from any vulnerability and due to this fact any potential relationship.
Opening Yourself Up to Love
The solely technique to overcome these problematic areas of our life is to extend self-awareness. We can obtain this by way of a lot of alternative ways. Here are just a few.
“Rejoice always, pray constantly, give thanks in everything; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18)
The extra we pray and discuss to God, the larger we maintain a relationship with him. While He desires a relationship with us, how we reply to Him is our personal selection. Choosing to hope to God consistently is like selecting to consistently talk with a member of the family or a good friend. You nurture any relationship by what you set into it.
When we nurture our relationship with God, we expertise His love extra, but additionally return a few of that love.
2. Reading Scripture
“All Scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for teaching, for rebuking, for correcting, for training in righteousness.” (2 Timothy 3:16)
Reading God’s Word steeps us within the knowledge that comes from the one who’s love. We want his knowledge and perception to develop in what it means to actually be beloved. We can’t totally love others if we don’t know what it means to be totally beloved ourselves. And as God’s Word reveals, God sees one thing price loving in us.
With larger knowledge, we might be extra conscious of the issue areas in our lives that draw us away from love. With larger self-awareness we are able to take applicable steps to altering our behaviors, and begin recognizing methods to let love in.
“Iron sharpens iron, and one person sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)
Change is doable once we are by ourselves, however is a lot extra doable in a neighborhood of different believers. When we discover others who can encourage us, we are able to additionally depend on them as sources of recommendation and accountability. Knowing we’re not alone presents a reminder that love is not only one thing to obtain, however one thing to provide.
These are however just a few methods to acknowledge how we block ourselves from love. The larger love we are able to each share and obtain, the nearer we are going to come to fulfilling the 2 best commandments.
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Aaron Brown is a contract author, dance trainer, and visible artist. He presently contributes articles to GodUpdates, GodTube, iBelieve, and Crosswalk. Aaron additionally helps shoppers by way of the freelance platform Upwork.
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